Self-improvement is about continual, gradual change that can help us improve both our way of life and ourselves. It’s not only about attaining material wealth or objects. It comes down to attaining all those qualities we admire in others: confidence, satisfaction, etc. However, many of us don’t even think about these items until what we do isn’t working even around the most elementary level anymore. Should it be working “somewhat,” then we often still settle for less and go along just putting one foot following the other, day-to-day, just during.
Sometimes, things get worse suddenly, like when you have an abrupt crisis. You no doubt know you should handle it right then, with no hassle. So that you do. However, we occassionally might not even notice that situations are getting worse gradually, because we’ve become accustomed to handling the worries. It is a small bit like placing a frog in the lukewarm pot of water and gradually turning up the temperature. The frog doesn’t even realize he’s being boiled to death until it’s too far gone.
Are you like that frog? Would you always handle stress after stress after stress, not really noticing that things are getting worse, until out of the blue you just can’t handle it anymore? Most of us are, but so what can we do about it? So many of us are so absorbed inside our own problems, too, that we don’t notice other people’s problems. Here, too, we must turn our attention outward and take notice of the rest of the world; they’ve got problems, too, just like we do.
If you’re wise, you know you should be on the lookout and learn your lessons through joy and happiness along with through pain and crisis. However, if you do not (that is exactly what a lot of people do), the powers that be will introduce those lessons through crisis and pain, since you simply must give consideration when something goes wrong. Then, you may well ask for help. Then, you have to pay attention. Then, you’re working on changing.
However, it is possible to work with self improvement and learn your lessons through joyful experiences as opposed to painful ones. That’s not to say the change won’t happen, and then for most of us, change is at least slightly uncomfortable even when we learn how to accept it. But if you know it’s coming it doesn’t matter what you do, you can learn to embrace it for that lessons it will educate you on as well as the gifts it will provide you with. If you stand back and appear at it by doing this (in the same way once you stand back to fully appreciate that van Gogh painting), you’ll learn to appreciate change and stay happy in the middle of it, even though you will discover it uncomfortable sometimes. Itrrrs this that Mother Teresa meant when she said, “Be happy anyway.” Happiness can be a choice, not something you pursue, it doesn’t matter what the American Constitution says.
There is also to realize that whatever preconceived notions people have in regards to you, you might be your personal person and also you don’t need to be defined by them. Sometimes, too, we are able to infer that individuals think some things about us even though that is not actually true. They could see us in a entirely different light that we think they do. Either way, you have to quit living through other’s eyes and commence living through your personal. Although “self improvement” is a word that the majority of people bandy around, in reality, it’s something that people all need to do, each day.