When guys bring up the topic of approaching women or “how to approach women” , the next topic after “how to approach women” is usually about flirting
A recent query was : “Why is it some women initiate a flirt with you but the moment you respond with a flirt back in their direction they run away? ” Now this seemed interesting and significant enough to share.
First of all, women have different personalities. What is being described here is a type of personality, not all women in general. The personality type that usually does this kind of behavior is a little insecure. They are testing the water, but they don’t really want to jump in.
The way I usually handle this type of behavior is to not get baited by it. I don’t react. In other words I don’t flirt back. But I do communicate.
Women who do this are insecure. So I let them flirt all they want. If I were to flirt back they would get scared and bolt. But by simply being there and communicating without flirting I allow them to get over their insecurity. They sooner or later get comfortable and steepen the gradient of sexual interaction on their own.
Now the reason you might get the impression that all women are like this is because similar personalities and compatible personalities tend to hang out. In other words people tend to attract a certain type of people. Since you attract a certain type of people all the time you might get the impression that 100% of people are like that when in fact say only 20% are. You are just meeting that 20% all the time.
Strange but true mechanism
Now having said that, let’s look at it from a different angle. Women in general like flirting for flirting’s sake more than men do. Men will flirt because they are interested in a woman. Women will flirt to see if they get a reaction, to see if they are looking good and are desirable, even when they are not interested in a man. They will flirt with a guy they are only interested in being friends with.
One way to get better control of these situations is to look at all the communication channels that a woman is using to communicate – Like verbal, emotional, physical, mental, and sexual communications.
A mentally healthy woman who likes you will tend to communicate her interest or attraction across all communication channels consistently. If she is just playing around or just amusing herself, she will not do that. So when you see a woman giving you mixed messages don’t take it seriously. She is either playing around or not mentally healthy.
In either case take a pass.